Choosing The One

By now you should have ended up with only a few items on the list. From here on it’s only about you, your preferences and your talents.

I believe that anyone can be whatever they want, but if you are 1.5 m tall and your dream is to be the greatest basketball player of all times, I would recommend you to reconsider. Don’t get me wrong, I still believe it’s possible, but you also have to consider how probable it is for it to happen.

Now go ahead and take your list. There are a few sets of criteria that you will need to consider when making your choice. For each of them give notes from 1 to 5 and in the end make a sum. The one with the highest score should be your dream to act on and follow.

The first criterion when choosing your dream is what you like most. Imagine yourself after five, 10, 20 years from now and doing the same thing. What would your enthusiasm level be, how could your dream keep you motivated for such a long time and how happy would you be by doing it for that long?

The second criterion is related to your skills and talents. There are several possibilities: your dream is just a passion and you don’t plan to get any money out of it and you don’t have any high hopes to achieve greatness; let’s say that your dream is to have a beautiful garden behind your house – then it doesn’t really matter what your skills are. But if you plan on being a great singer you will have to take into account your inborn talents.

Last but not least is the messy things you will have to do, the work no one likes. Think about all the activities that don’t appeal much to you – you will still have to do them in order do achieve your dream.

Now that you have your scores you will have to add one more element. The last one is what your instinct tells you. Grade it from 1 to 5 like the rest and add it to the sum. There you go. You have your dream.

This was the easy part, we’ll get down to work on the rest in the next posts.

Possible vs probable

I heard a million times that everything is possible, as I am sure you did. I have to say that I agree that everything is possible. You never know what can happen. Even the most incredible thing you can think of still has a chance to happen.

However, in my opinion, the debate is not if it’s possible or not, but if it’s probable or not. Probable shows you how high the chances are that something will happen and this is what your really care about. No one is interested if an event is possible or not if it’s probability to happen is extremely low.

You are not going to make an insurance for your house in case it gets hit by a meteor, even if it’s possible, but it’s likely that you will make one in case of floods or earthquakes if you live in an area with a high risk for such events.

Impossible is nothing but probability is what matters.

Refining the list

After you have created your list it’s time to focus on making a decision and choosing a dream to start working on.

Before we get started on choosing the dream, you should make a difference between items on a bucket list. Dreams are life goals, something that once achieved will stay with you forever and you will keep coming back to that all your life. Items on a bucket list are just things you want to do, try, experiment once.

Now that you have removed anything that should be on your bucket list, cross out anything that’s related to making a certain amount of money. Just cut it off the list. That’s not a dream, that’s a milestone. Once you get there you will want more and so on.

Money is not a dream, it is something that you will use to help you create and develop your dream.

Now look at the list and cross out everything that you are not willing to lose a night’s sleep on, or wake up at 3 in the morning to get something done.

By now you should have narrowed it down to a few items. From among these you will have to decide that One dream. We’ll do that next.

The dream list

Dreaming is easy. All you have to do is close your eyes and let your mind fly.

On the other hand, finding your dream, the one that you want to accomplish, the one that you are willing to work hard on, even fight for, to accomplish is a totally different story.

Most people get it wrong from the start and as they move along they lose interest and give up on what they consider to be their dream just because it’s not. So, before we go any further, you have to find the dream you want to be working on.

If you already know what it is you can consider yourself lucky, but reading the next part might be useful in the future.

Start by making a list of all your dreams, all you can think of from childhood dreams to the most recent ones. Don’t restrain your mind and imagination. Dream big. Take at least 15 minutes to think about this. Dig deep and write everything down.

Usually a day is enough to have a list of at least ten dreams, so don’t hurry, take your time. It’s essential to start on the right track, so better focus on this part for a bit more than go in the wrong direction afterwards.

Prepare your list and we’ll talk more about Refining the list.

From dream to reality

Most people have dreams, but of which only a part do something in order to make them become reality; and of these people a small number actually manage to make their dreams become reality.

There are a lot of reasons why this happens, starting from a lack of motivation, to a lack of vision, to a bad plan, to bad execution. In the next series of posts I will try to guide you from getting your motivation, to building a vision and a plan, and finally to execute it and enjoy your achievement.

It’s not going to be easy and it will require a lot of effort and determination, but let’s be honest, nothing worth while is ever easy. No matter how big or small, no matter if it’s personal, job related, business related or anything in between, we’re going to work on it and achieve it.

Get ready to go from dream to reality.