You can…

turn your back.

be afraid and do nothing.

leave it to others.

refuse to get involved.

do everything just for yourself.

Or you can…

give a helping hand.

overcome your fears and make something happen.

step up, make promises, and deliver.

decide to get involved and create something meaningful.

create relationships and bonds.

It’s up to you want you are going to do. You can go both ways, but success means getting involved, doing what you are scared of, accept complicated work, create meaningful relationships.

Act now because “you can” will turn into “you could have” sooner than you expect it to.

Success vs happiness

Many people tend to confuse the two or believe that you can’t be successful without being happy and that there is no happiness without success. The truth is that they are two very distinct things.

Success means to achieve what you want, to get what you desire, no matter if it’s having a certain job, house, family, car or anything else. This is personal success, but there is also a social success where others, society, perceive you as successful because you achieved what they wish they had.

On the other hand, happiness means to enjoy and appreciate your job, belongings, friends, other people, life in general. Happiness means not to have what you desire but desire what you have.

Most of times successful people are people seen as successful by society and not by own standards and that’s why you can see a lot of unhappy successful people. Also many happy people don’t care about the standards that society uses to define success and that’s why you can see so many unsuccessful people happy.

Success means to get what you want while happiness means to want what you got.

The importance of ignorance

We are bombarded all day long by a huge amount of information, by people who want our attention, by emails that we need to answer to, by news feeds, by friends in need, by clients and bosses, by loved ones, by our kids.

While it would be extremely pleasant to be able to offer each of them the attention they want, we don’t have the physical time to do that. This means that we have to distribute our attention, to give more to some and less to others and to ignore the rest.

If you take the time to consider this, we ignore more things than things we offer attention to. The problem is that we become so used to ignoring what’s around us that we will soon start to ignore things we should not.

When bombarded by a million things and under pressure, we tend to ignore everything that’s not of extremely high importance in that second. What this leads to is ignoring the things important in the long run, the things that truly matter to us.

This is why deciding what we ignore and what we focus our attention on should be a continuous process. We should constantly revise our short and long term goals, objectives, important elements and people in our life and how we distribute attention to them.

Ignorance is bliss if done right.

Problems vs challenges

Problems or challenges are just our way of defining the same thing. Even if some people make a clear difference between the two, both are actually just obstacles we encounter. They are unexpected things that we run into in our day to day lives, in our activities, at our jobs, or in our relationships.

The only real difference between the two is the attitude you have towards an unexpected situation. A person who is reluctant to change, who finds it hard to adapt and who wants things to always be as they were, will see these changes as problems. Relating to them as problems will only make you want to solve that specific situation as soon as possible in order for things to go back as they were.

On the other hand people who see each obstacle as an opportunity for improvement, a chance to transform things into something better will see obstacles as challenges. This will offer them the possibility to use their best skills, to create something special, to shine. Thus they will try to innovate and create a way to make these obstacles obsolete.

You can choose to solve problems or to take on challenges and transform things. It’s your choice if you want to become a problem solver or an innovator. We need both, but in a world where most people are taught that obstacles are problems that need to be solved, innovators are highly appreciated and rewarded.

Each obstacle is your chance to do something memorable. Focus on innovating rather than just solving problems if you want to make a real contribution.

Don’t be so stiff

It’s all about your attitude towards the things around you, the people you meet and life in general. Stiff people tend to be reluctant to change, more difficult to communicate with, harder to collaborate with, and unpleasant to be around of. People hate it when you are stiff.

Seriously. You are doing it right now. Stop that, relax, put a smile on your face and don’t worry. Being stiff will never help you. Ever. On the contrary, it will only do you harm so as soon as you change your attitude the better it will be.

A relaxed person will be more opened towards others, will create more meaningful relationships and communicate better. This is the cornerstone of any good relationship, business or personal.

Once you let go of your rigidity, you will become more adaptable to any situation you will encounter, to any challenges that might arise. Being adaptable to change is one of the secrets to succeed in a constantly changing world, environment and society.

Stiff people find it hard to smile, enjoy and be happy.