Making it too easy

Recently I have read that you can have an interview with only 3 questions. Nothing strange about this until I saw the questions.

1.  Can you do the job?
2.  Will you love the job?
3.  Can we tolerate working with you?

I can answer all three with only one word, “Yes”. It is that easy apparently.

Actually, the first question is meant to see your strengths, the second to see your motivation and the third to see if you could fit in. These aspects are essential when recruiting but the problem comes from the fact that you can say anything in an interview. And when confronted with such a situation people will tend to tell you want you want to hear.

Talking is easy. What I would really be interested in seeing is things already done. Those hardly lie about a person’s abilities, motivation and personality.

1.  Show me what you delivered in your previous jobs.
2.  Show me projects you have done by yourself.
3.  Show me your social network accounts or better yet, your blog.

So, the next time you hear those three questions in an interview, try to answer as if you heard the three things I said above. If this won’t get you the job it means that’s not the company you want to work for. But if you get accepted it will surely be a great match. Either way, you win.

Action will always speak louder than words.


Getting the right answer

Instead of asking yourself what you could have done, ask yourself what you can do from now on.

Instead of asking others what they can do for you, ask what you can do for them.

Instead of asking what else do you need to achieve your goals, ask yourself what you could do with what you have.

Instead of asking why you got a negative answer, ask yourself what you must do to get a positive one.

If you are not getting the right answers then you are asking the wrong questions.


It’s always your fault

If something isn’t the way you would want it to be, then it’s your fault. I am not talking about something specific here, but about everything. It is your fault you don’t have the job you’re dreaming of, the money you want, the friends you wish for. It’s your fault that you are not happy.

It’s your fault because you are waiting for other people to do the things you want them to do or be as you want them to.

Changing your actions is much simpler than trying to change others. So, the next time you want something to be different, think about what you need to change in order for that to happen and not what others have to do.

Don’t expect anything, make it happen yourself.


Why do you do it?

The four major options on Facebook when it comes to interaction are posting something, liking what others have posted, sharing stuff and commenting. This is also true for other social networks, for blogs and also for real life. I will stick to the Facebook example but you can go ahead and apply this to everything else out there.

Posting something is your way to send your message, ideas, thoughts, feelings across to other people. This is how you can contribute, how you can inspire, motivate or just inform other people, and how you can create or help spread something. The post is the product you send out there hoping to make a change for the better.

Liking is your way to show appreciation for someone else’s idea, art, work and for the impact it had on you. This is how you can encourage other people to keep doing the things you enjoy, find useful or that you would like to see more often.

Sharing is used to show to others the work someone has done and that they don’t have access to. It is the best way get attention in order to help ideas grow, to help others trying to make a change and to help communities expand.

Comments are used to offer feedback, to debate, to criticize, to suggest improvements. This is how you can directly contribute to someone else’s work with your input.

You can do all these things or you can just use posts, likes, sharing and comments for your own interests. You can post only what will benefit you, like or share the things that when seen by others will make you look good in their eyes, or make comments to make yourself appear in a certain way.

It’s your choice if you want to contribute or you just want to market yourself. Meaningful relationships, change and progress though will only come from showing interest in others as well, not only in yourself.


Doing the wrong thing

All successful people have done at least a few wrong things in their lives. Some of them even say that those things have been some of the best lessons they had in life.

Doing the right things doesn’t always work. So many people are doing it every single day but they never achieve what they want. When so many people are doing only the right things, doing the wrong thing might be your only advantage.

You should never be afraid of doing something wrong. It might turn out to be the best thing you have ever done. And if it turns out it wasn’t, rock bottom can be a solid foundation for a new, fresh start.

Not doing anything is worse than doing the wrong thing because you will never learn anything new.